I saw Kate Winslet on TV the other day talking about the film she made with Leonardo DiCaprio, Revolutionary Road. She said that in preparing for her role she read a lot of early feminist writing including The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan. This got me googling Betty which led to a reference to an article that appeared in Redbook in the early 60’s. This article talked about the unhappiness of the American housewife. Apparently when it appeared, the response from women who echoed the sentiments expressed in the article was overwhelming.
Many of us have often wondered how our mothers could have encouraged/forced their daughters to give up their children for adoption. Maybe they were experiencing this unhappiness tapped by the Redbook article. Maybe they saw us as their hope. They wanted us to be different. They wanted us to be the women who would escape their fate.
Maybe when we got pregnant they saw us as betraying that hope and starting down the same path that led to their unhappiness.
Just an idea – Haven’t you wondered how your mother who knew the joy of holding a baby in her arms could have for one second entertained the idea of you losing your child and her grandchild forever.
I’m just saying…and wondering.