Babies and Other Things of Immeasurable Value…

I came across a poem yesterday and I thought I would share it. The poem illustrates the value of the the world you were born into. It speaks eloquently about the things that cannot be measured with money. It seems to me that in the adoption world money is often seen to trump family connection and the joys of another kind of life. Adoption assumes because you will be raised in a world without poverty you are better off.

This is a popular notion. I read a review of the movie “Babies” recently. It is about the first year in the lives of four babies. Two of the babies live in San Francisco and Tokyo; the other two live in Mongolia and Africa. As you watch the film, it seems that the African and Mongolian babies have the best and most natural lives. The review I read agreed with that assessment but added, let’s see if that is true when those babies are grown up. As if somehow the Japanese and American cultures were better. That is, in my opinion, a very elitist point of view.

Photo by Karina Hunter

We are better for you is an basic tenant of adoption. We are better than your mother, better than your family of origin, better for you than the culture you were born into. That is why you should be here with us and not there with them.

Read the poem. It is by Luke Henry Howie. It’s called The Dog – Pic Mobert. Pic Mobert is a reservation in Ontario.



Here is the link.


3 Responses to Babies and Other Things of Immeasurable Value…

  1. Margie says:

    Thanks, UM, for the tips about the movie and the poem, which was powerful.

    It never ceases to amaze me that people will pull out the better life argument to justify adoptions when everyone knows that there are no guarantees in life. No adoptive family has a guarantee that any good fortune they may have will follow them through life.

    This is totally OT, but it came up when I was searching for info about the movie. Blew my mind:

  2. Denise says:

    Thanks for the heads-up on this movie. I agree with your comment about elitism. Basically, I think children are best off growing up in the culture and with the people they are born to. To assume that a baby born in Africa or Russia or anywhere else would be better off in the U.S. is a crock. Also, I couldn’t help but notice on the poster that the American is the only baby who doesn’t look happy or content. That sets up the message.

  3. Von says:

    We all need to know where we come from who we are and need to have the luxury of choice for ourselves.Adoptees need that the same as everyone else.

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