I decided that if what I was going to do was blog every day for a month, I needed a plan. A simple plan but a plan nonetheless. Since I am doing this because of Adoption Awareness Month (aka Adoptember) I quickly wrote out adoption and three other adoption-related words.
Adoption, Reunion, Reform, Reality
28 letters. 28 writing prompts.
Day One for introduction. Day 30 for summation. Et voila!
Today: A is for Advocacy.
Nablopomo is also putting up prompts. Today’s is: What part of writing do you like best?
The thing I like best about writing is that you can make anything happen. And if I could make anything happen in adoption advocacy would be it.
There are so many instances in life where you are not permitted to do the thing you want to do unless you have had independent legal advice. So many instances where society wants to make sure you are giving an informed consent.
In the province where I live a child who is the subject of a custody battle will have his or her own lawyer appointed and paid for by the state.
But let that same child get pregnant when she is seventeen she is more or less on her own or even worse being given advice by someone who has a direct or indirect interest in getting their hands on her baby.
Those around her just want the fastest way to make the whole problem of the unexpected pregnancy go away. Often her parents want that and so may the baby’s father.
If that same seventeen year old were considering abortion in some states in the US she would be compelled to view in graphic details all aspects of the action she is considering.
Yet no one sets out the impact of adoption.
No one says your child may grow up to be a wealthy man, the respected CEO of one of the world’s most progressive and innovative organizations and yet he will never stop feeling the pain of wondering why he was given away.
To be young, single and pregnant is a very lonely and frightening experience. There is no one in your corner who is acting without a very healthy dose of self interest.
And so I say if I could make anything happen, the way I can with writing, it would be that every pregnant person who is even considering adoption be assigned an advocate. One who will stand up for her and her baby.
Some one who will provide her with information about the true impact of adoption on mother and child.
It should be a basic right. Objective advice and representation.
It is of the same importance to we mothers of the adopted as obtaining access to original birth certificates is to adoptees.
And speaking of OBC’s …
Tomorrow D is for demonstrate.
2 down 28 to go.