D is for Demonstrate

NaBloPoMo Blog#432 Day 3

aDoption, reunion, reform, reality

The Nablopomo Prompt for today is: If you knew that whatever you ate next would be your last meal, what would you want it to be? 

I can’t work that in here but I did do a post once along the same lines. It was entitled Last Suppers.

Here’s the link: http://wp.me/pgdfz-c1

TODAY: D is for Demonstrate       http://www.nablopomo.com

Describe someone as a demonstrator and people picture a group, marching, signs. Do you have to march and carry a sign to be a demonstrator? No you don’t.

One thing I have learned about, dare I say it, consciousness raising and adoption is that for many of us it can be a very gradual process.  For some what seems like a very small and private act may be their first demonstration.

Walking into a support group and admitting for the first time in public that our lives have been hurt by adoption is a demonstration.

Believing you have the right to know your family of origin or your son or your daughter and acting on it is a demonstration.

Setting out to educate the public about the impact of adoption for mothers and children is a demonstration.

Writing a letter to an elected representative is a demonstration.

For many of us mothers and adoptees it takes us a bit of time to figure out what our position is.   Just what it is we want to demonstrate about?  What the problem is and what we want to do about it.

I learned a new word this week. Someone in my writing group used the word hegemony in a story that we are critiquing.

Although I have heard the word before I confess I wasn’t completely sure what it meant. So I looked it up. Hegemony is the dominance or leadership of one social group or (nation) over others;

For a very long time the public perception of adoption has been controlled by those who benefit from it the most: adoption agencies and adoptive parents.  You might say that the dominance of this group has caused the rest of us some pain.

We don’t want this to continue. We don’t want it to happen to any one else.

So, one way or another, we demonstrate.


3 down: 27 to go.



One Response to D is for Demonstrate

  1. joy21 says:

    I love reading your blog and am so glad you are doing this. I found myself nodding with every word you wrote. Yes, the losers in adoption the natural families and adoptees are so shamed for even being every step we take regardless of the size is to be applauded. We deserve to be heard, we deserve to heal, we owe it to future generations to speak out.

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