Adoption reunion has to be the most complicated relationship you will ever enter into. Mothers have been told how much their choice will be honoured, how perfect the adoptive parents will be. Adoptees approach reunion with the story of their adoption and the adoptive parents’ perception of their mother infused into their personal narratives by osmosis. Adoptees want to know why they were given up. Perhaps they have been told they should be grateful for their adoption. The two, mother and son or daughter, meet and many things on both sides may not be as they were told they would be. Other people get involved, the complications multiply.
Reunion Wisdom from The Declassified Adoptee