There are two parts to this post. The first is this item from the Family Preservation Blog. The second is a reaction to this news story that I read on a local newspaper’s website.
First, Part One from the Family Preservation Blog on Sunday, December 20, 2009
Ontario Disallowed Father’s Names
An issue of great concern for my colleagues at the Canadian Council of Natural Mothers (CCNM) is that when mothers relinquished, and gave the father’s name, wrote it in on the forms for the birth certificate – it was deleted, whited out, expunged.
Now that the records have been opened, adoptees are finding their mothers but not [their] fathers.
Karen Lynn of CCNM says they went to great extent with photo copying secions of the forms that were whited out so that the dotted line she KNOWS she wrot eon appears to be in tact!
Apparently, the law, up until 1986, forbade listing the father’s name on birth registries or adoption papers for children of unmarried mothers unless both mother and father demanded it. So only some 10% of those documents identify a father.
I originally read the report of this story on the on-line version of the local newspaper. Because it is on-line there is the opportunity to comment. The first comment tells adoptees not to worry about finding their fathers because children who are given up for adoption are rarely the products of long and loving relationships. (This person needs to watch the first episode of Find My Family or check out my post, The 40 year Secret.)
All you mothers out there – How long had you been going out with your child’s father?
For me – it was 4 years when I got pregnant.
These old myths about us die a hard death?
And what makes me saddest of all is some people don’t even know how much they have been brainwashed into believing what people would like them to believe.