From Origins Canada

Saturday, March 3, 2018

Origins has been working very hard to get the government to listen. And so it begins…

Dear Members and Friends,

It is my great pleasure to finally be able to announce that Origins Canada has been successful in securing a Senate study into the postwar adoption mandate. The study will take place on March 20, 21 and 22, 2018 in Ottawa.

Any mother, adoptee, or organization that would like to make a submission about your experiences may do so by writing a letter to the clerk of the committee. Mothers may want to include information about your experiences in Canada’s maternity homes, hospitals, and the lifelong trauma they have endured.

Adoptees may want to include information about suffering from issues of abandonment, attachment, mirroring, secrecy of adoption records, reunion, or any other issues you feel are important for the senate to know about the adoptee perspective.

Please mail your submissions asap to:

Attention: The Clerk

Senate Committee, Social Affairs Science and Technology

Victoria Building

140 Wellington St.

Ottawa, Ontario

K1A 0A4


Fix You

Saturday, January 31, 2015

I hear many adoptees say that they think that their mothers want them to fix the trauma and pain the mom experienced around their pregnancy, birth and adoption. I suspect, as this adoptee explains, it is not fixing most mothers want, it’s understanding.

April 10th is Always Mother’s Day to Me…

Wednesday, April 10, 2013


It is now 26 years since I met my son on April 10th, 1987.  I have written and celebrated that day many times.  If you would like to read a couple of those posts that reflect on that day,  here they are. 2011 is complete with photographs.

2011, 2012.

Meeting my son  changed my life for the better. I still celebrate it even though for the last eight years things have not been going so well. For the last four years they haven’t been going period.  I have made a few attempts to reach out to him. I never wrote about them here because I don’t really believe in giving a blow by blow description of everything that’s going on.  Let’s just say, things remain the same. Read the rest of this entry »

You have to start somewhere…

Wednesday, February 20, 2013


UM has been silent for quite awhile.  Things were going on that I won’t go into here.  Do I want to start writing my blog again?  To be honest I’m not sure.

Do I still believe in adoption reform and adoption activism? You bet.

I am encouraged by all the great voices that are out there. All the people that are starting to get it.  All the people who call individuals and institutions out when they spout the old adoption party line – ignoring all the voices, mainly adoptees and mothers, that say the party line is inaccurate, self-serving and offensive.

I think slowly things are changing.

I’ve seen many, many posts that I wanted to pass on but didn’t so today I am going to do it.  because, as I said, you have to start somewhere.  One is about adoptee anger and how it just may be justified and the other two are  about the burden of being told you must feel grateful for being adopted.

Here they are. All written by adoptees:

Why Anger is Necessary


Who Is Entitled to My Gratitude

Adoptees’ Perspective on Love

And one more, also by an adoptee, that kind of reflects how I feel sometimes.

Adoption Doesn’t Feel Real



Oh dear…the emotional drama of girls in TROUBLE!!!

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

From WritingMyWrongs

It would be funny if the message in the trailer wasn’t such an accurate portrayal of the attitudes.  I haven’t seen the movie but I hope she took her baby and ran like hell.