Fix You

Saturday, January 31, 2015

I hear many adoptees say that they think that their mothers want them to fix the trauma and pain the mom experienced around their pregnancy, birth and adoption. I suspect, as this adoptee explains, it is not fixing most mothers want, it’s understanding.


Reunion Wisdom from The Declassified Adoptee

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Nine Things I’ve Learned in Five Years of Reunion

Adoption reunion has to be the most complicated relationship you will ever enter into.  Mothers have been told how much their choice will be honoured, how perfect the adoptive parents will be.  Adoptees approach reunion with the story of their adoption and the adoptive parents’ perception of their mother infused into their personal narratives by osmosis.  Adoptees want to know why they were given up.  Perhaps they have been told they should be grateful for their adoption. The two, mother and son or daughter, meet and many things on both sides may not be as they were told they would be.   Other people get involved, the complications multiply.

Randy Travis – Songs to Search By…

Friday, July 12, 2013


This is an update to a post I did earlier. Randy Travis is going through a hard time right now. He suffered congestive heart failure and now he has had a stroke. He is in critical condition.  I am very sad to hear that and my thoughts are with him, his family and friends.

There was a time when I listened to a lot of Randy Travis. The year I was looking for and found my son, there were two CD’s I played all the time, at home, in the car, everywhere. One was by Randy Travis.  Read the rest of this entry »

UM Theatre Review: Adopt This! now playing at The Toronto Fringe Festival

Tuesday, July 9, 2013


Adopt This! is Dan Bingham’s one -man show currently playing in the Tarragon Theatre’s Solo Space as part of The Toronto Fringe Festival.  Bingham has taken his adoption experience and decided to make us all, the initiated and the uninitiated, laugh.

And laugh we did.  I can’t think of when I have laughed so much about adoption. Oh wait, yes I can. Never. And it felt good to laugh. Damn good! Read the rest of this entry »

Adopt This! at The Toronto Fringe Festival

Saturday, July 6, 2013


Writing is easy, they say – Just sit down and open a vein.  There is a one-man show on at the Toronto Fringe Festival called “Adopt This!”  It was on at the Ottawa Fringe two years ago and won for best script.  There is a very therapeutic effect to letting it all out on paper and Dan Bingham has apparently done it with humour or humor as they say in the U.S.

I have tickets.  I’ll post my review after I see it.

Click on the link to read more.